Top three ways to further anger an irate person

1. Asking "What's wrong?" when the person clearly does not want to talk about it.

This one can be a little hard to detect unless you know the person well. Still, there are a few signs that can be seen in a lot of people. One of these signs is the hostile eyes. A person who does not want anyone to talk to them will have a angry look in their eyes that seems to say I dare you to talk, and if you do it will be your last words. Yeah, someone who is seeking someone to ask what's wrong doesn't look like that; they more have a pleading look that is seeking for anyone to rant all their problems to.

2. Seeking to fix the problem before the person is ready to calm down, especially if you are the problem.

If someone has been shooting flames out of their eyes in your direction all day it probably is not the best idea to talk to them quite yet, unless you're prepared for a) a lot of shouting and profanities or b) a response that sweeps over the problem and further angers the person in question. It's true you should probably try and see what the problem is if it concerns you personally, but be sure you choose a good time. The the best time to talk to someone is when you first see them the next time because you don't have the chance to do anything that would annoy them yet.

3. Assuming know exactly why the persons mad and telling them they are angry when they are not.

When asking someone why they are angry when they are not angry, the person may become mad. It is best not to assume you know what someone is feeling when it is not blatantly obvious because a) the person is really fine and not upset in anyway or b) the person was trying to hide the emotion which means they do not want to talk about it, which leads to point 1.


These are all just mild observations so it could not be true for everyone. Just keep it in mind you are dealing with someone who may or may not be upset. Of course if you forget, life goes on.